Today I am linking up with The Bright Maidens where they are reviewing the recent TLC Documentary, Virgin Diaries. Go here to read the other posts.
I first heard about this show through a video one of my friends shared on Facebook from The Ellen Show. The video was EXTREMEMLY awkward but I figured the previews never give you the whole story, plus there were additional “Virgins” on the show that weren’t in the previews. When I did further research on the show I read that TLC created the show to show the “other” side of the spectrum. After having so many shows about big families.
When the #CathSorority girls and I were discussing the show via Twitter @Ehillgrove made a comment that really struck me. She said, “Virgin Diaries hopefully will make being a virgin “cool,” how the Duggars have made having a large family “cool.”” I thought this was interesting and hoped it would come to be true.
After watching the show I felt like all the show was trying to do was make fun of virgins. I felt the show was very unrealistic. Some of the virgins on the show are virgins not because of any beliefs but because they just haven’t met “the right person.”
Another thing that was VERY unrealistic was the three virgins were on dates with 3 men that ALSO happened to be virgins. For one thing I’m not sure how true that was and another thing most people don’t go telling people things like that on the FIRST DATE!
I really felt that the show could have made virgins out to be better people. I mean are virgins really that different from anyone else? I was watching a video from Nightline (which I can’t find at the moment sorry). A psychologist was being interviewed that said virgins “Don’t know themselves or how to handle themselves [in bed].” Really? Just because they haven’t had sex. How is someone that has had sex that much “Better off” than someone that hasn’t?
One term that goes around is “you have to try it before you buy it” I really think good/bad sex shouldn’t be a deal breaker in a marriage/relationship. If you love someone enough you will learn together. I think it could be a very romantic experience to learn something so intimate with someone together.
As I have posted in a previous post I am currently reading How To Find Your Soul mate Without Losing Your Soul by Jason Evert. I love how the book explains what girls should be looking in a partner and why the church teaches what they teach about birth control and sex outside of marriage. Hopefully in the next few months I can finish the book and write my review.
At the end of Virgin Diaries they advertised for more “virgins” to go on the show. I’ll be interested to see if they create another episode. I hope if they do they won’t make us “adult virgins” a mockery. But alas “real adult virgins” would probably make boring TV and who wants that? Did anyone else watch virgin diaries? What did you think? Remember to go here to read more Virgin Diaries Commentaries.
*Disclaimer: I am a proclaimed “Adult Virgin” all opinions are my own.*
If you surround yourself with like-minded people, I bet it wouldn’t be hard to go on a three-couple date of all virgins. The only men I’ve dated enough to kiss were virgins, too.
You make interesting points! I saw that Nightline report and I do think that we can know ourselves very well, in the ways that are important, without having sex. But she probably is right about not knowing what’s going on in the act of making love… but that’s the idea. You have to learn how it works with your partner anyway, making it even more bonding.
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Right. I was just pointing out that the way they “portrayed” the triple date on tv just seemed awkward/unrealistic.
Thanks! Thats how I feel I would much rather marry a virgin than a non-virgin bc I’d be afraid of not knowing what to do and he would have different expectations. If that maks any sense. But I agree the point is to grow in it together..
Loved this post! Thanks for writing with us!
your welcome! It was fun after I deleted 10 copies of rants 🙂