I’m back! Last week was about being at peace and I’m going to be the honest single person and say I really have never been at “peace” about being single. It’s a constant struggle I have. So I opted out but I’m back again because I like this weeks topic. I have seen a TON of debates on this topic in and out of Christian circles, Catholic circles and even secular circles.
So this week we are asking, “Is it possible for a woman to pursue a man?” A lot of
older people say NO and that the man should ALWAYS pursue the woman. If you like someone you should wait around and wait for him to ask you out, find your phone number, etc. I think this is CRAZY. A lot of guys are slow and just not that pro-active and let’s be honest some are just oblivious to our “signals.” I don’t think there is anything wrong with giving a guy your phone number, inviting him to an event, or just pretending we are still in middle school and asking him, “Do you like me?” I think some guys just need this push.
In my online dating adventures I’ve known women that sign up for online dating and don’t do anything and wait for guys to message them and make the first move. In online dating this is kind of crazy. There are SOOOOO many people on these sites. Guys may never find your profile. I say if you see someone that sparks your interest send them a short message or heck send them an emoticon. It’s not going to kill you or them. The worst that happens is they don’t answer. Now if they don’t answer don’t keep messaging them and sending them emoticons. But you can at least say you tried and made an attempt at getting to know someone.
I feel like some of these people who say, “women can’t pursue men” are people stuck in the wrong century/decade. It’s just INSANE. In a society where women are doctors, CEOs, Actresses, Lawyers, and even homemakers. Women can literally do anything men can do (just about)! Why not pursue men as well?
I know some people reading this post probably think I’m crazy and this should never become the norm but it’s just what I think. I do know a ton of women that have told me they pursued their husbands and now they’ve been married for 10+ years. So it has worked for some people. I think hearing these stories has changed my thinking of how courtship and dating works. There probably was a time where I never would have thought this way and watched way too many old school movies but I think in this day and age it could work either way.