They have picked a great topic this week that I LOVE talking about with other people. This week we’re talking about the 5 Love Languages.
“Dr. Gary Chapman has outlined five ways people give and receive love in his book “The 5 Love Languages.” Take the quiz at 5lovelanguages.com to discover yours! What is your love language? How does that affect your approach to romantic relationships, family relationships, and friendships? How do you give and receive love with people who have different love languages?”
The 5 Love Languages is something I learned about in college. My mom went to a family and marriage conference for work and went to a session where they talked about them and she brought home the books. I didn’t really understand what she was even talking about but she really liked the session.
A few years ago they came up again and the way they were explained made a lot more sense. Someone sent me the link where you can take the test online so I took it. I took it as a single person. Then I took it when I was dating someone and was very intrigued at how DIFFERENT the results were.
When I was single I always thought I’d HATE physical touch things like cuddling, holding hands, pda, etc. I really didn’t care for it as a single person but in a relationship I’m okay with it. I’m weird. I guess it goes with who I want to be close to me.
Quality Time has always been SUPER important to me. I like being with those I love and care for. I hate how busy people get and it goes months before I am able to see someone sometimes. The nice thing for me about quality time is as long as we’re together we don’t even have to be doing anything. We can be doing our own things on our computers or phones. Or reading our own books or playing our own video games. I’m happy as long as I’m with them.
Even though Words of Affirmations is in the middleish for me on both types it’s still kind of hard for me. It always seems awkward complimenting people and expressing my feelings. I think part of that goes with my introvertyness and shyness.
I’m looking forward to reading about others experiences with the 5 Love Languages. Stuff like this fascinates me.
I’m a huge fan of quality time too!! I agree with you that the love languages are fascinating. And I can totally relate to having different love languages for dating vs. relationships. Interesting how that works!!
I know! I always figured they’d be the same when I was in a relationship but it was TOTALLY different! I love all these kinds of tests and myers brigs as well you can learn so much about yourself and others by doing them.
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I like that you took the quiz while you were single as well as when in a relationship. It’s interesting how things can change. 🙂 I need to read more on the Five Love Languages to further understand them.
yeah if you read the book (which I haven’t) it gives you examples of what you can do to help use the love language. Like if your love language is quality time then you need to spend time with people. Or if it’s gifts you need to accept the gifts even if you don’t like to give them or something like that.
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Wow, that is a big shift for your relationship language versus single! I find that taking up dancing and knowing more people whose love language is Physical Touch helps me *understand* that one more even if I don’t speak it at all. (That makes it sound like a regular language!)
I know it was a really interesting change that I’m still kind of learning. I think sometimes it also depends on your partners love language and how it works with yours. I have found it important to figure out the best way to use the two together.
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