Oh life as a single person. I always thought my life in my twenties would be much more glamorous that it really is. I watch TV shows with characters in their twenties and it’s nothing like reality. They have glamorous jobs making tons of money, have tons of friends, clothes, things, and NEVER have money problems. Often the women have 3 dates a week and have to sometimes REJECT dates or “schedule them in.” Oh how I wish my life was like that.
Have you ever seen the My Friends Are All Married tumblr? Man I read it for comic relief but it is SOOO TRUE! It’s full of truthful quotes and gifs.
When my friend tells me that married people have different priorities…and I’m like…
Growing up I wanted to get married but I never knew when that would happen. Sometimes I think I would just wake up married one day like magic..not in the I got drunk in Vegas and married a random guy kind of way. But in a getting to skip the drama that is dating and just skipping to the married part.
One of the biggest things I hear from others about being single is people seem to think we have a TON of free time. Since I don’t have children or a significant other I have tons of free time to do whatever these other people need me to do like volunteer, help with errands, work on projects, etc. Honestly, I like doing these things so really it doesn’t bother me but I just don’t like the assumptions that I don’t have much of a life and can drop everything to help out.
I hope this post isn’t sounding mean/rude/ungrateful I have a hard time putting my feelings of this into words sometimes.
Really I know I should treasure these years and being single IS NOT the end of the world. I have learned A LOT about myself in the past 10 years. I’ve learned how to go to events by myself. I’ve learned how to be accountable for my faith life. I’ve learned how to cook, clean, and pay my own bills.
Yeah I struggled with some of these things…heck I still struggle with some of these things but I’m pushing through. I’m still alive and haven’t been to jail yet. Those are all wins right? Help me out here people!
I can say my moms really good about not hounding me about my singleness. Although it helps that she is also single. My sister it depends on her mood sometimes she doesn’t really care and sometimes she’s super nosy and interested in my dating life (or lack there of).
Thankfully a lot of my cousins and friends are also single and we can commiserate with each other. It’s nice to be able to commiserate with other singles so you don’t think you are INSANE. Even some of my married friends understand the frustrations which is super helpful. I know this season isn’t forever and I am FOREVER GRATEFUL for that!