Here is another post with NOTES FROM MY 2016-2017 Bullet Journal. This is from November 2017 when my husband and I went to Pre-Cana as part of Marriage Prep. This is just raw text from my bullet journal with some funny anecdotes I wrote. Bible verses and other quotes I wrote down.
Marriage is becoming the person you could never have become with them.
If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail.” Benjamin Franklin
“He said in reply, “Have you not read that from the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female’5c and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’?6So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, no human being must separate.” ~Matthew 19:4-6
I know this bible verse can be controversial but I think if you read the right parts of it it can be really powerful.
“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ loved the church and handed himself over for her.”~Ephesians 5:25
Staged photos HAHAHA-they need new photos in their powerpoints.
Over the last few years, I have heard this quote A MILLION TIMES. And I think it’s so true. Because after the butterflies and fun is over your love for each other really becomes a choice especially in the hard times.
When you fight/discuss sit next to each other vs across. Listen further while talking. Hold hands because it reminds you that you love each other.
Over the last few months, I’ve also heard having hard conversations in the car can be good because you aren’t looking at each other…but to each their own.
“Marriage is a team sport, you either win or lose together.”
Grant me the serenity to accept things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference.” ~Reinhold Niebuhr
I remember it was a long day where they threw a TON of information at us and we had hardly any time to actually talk with each other which was weird to me. But we’ve been married almost a year now so we’re making it work.
I’ve heard similar comments about one-day marriage prep courses. Their hearts are in the right place: the best offense is a good defense, so the Church’s goal is to prepare couples better to avoid failed or miserable marriages later. Couples need more than one day to prepare. However, many couples would simply refuse to get married in the Church if they were *required* to commit a weekend, several nights, or more. The best outcome is that couples take the teachings to heart and discuss them on their own.
P.S. That quotation is by Reinhold Niebuhr.
Beth Anne says
oh thanks I’ll update the post.
Yeah they do mean well but it’s just so overwhelming at the same time. I think the sponsor couple route sometimes can be better but not every parish has the people in place for that system. We actually got more out of taking the prepare and enrich assessment and meeting with our priest and talking with each other with the handouts than the pre-cana. I would have done the retreat but my husband wanted nothing to do with that and it was over $300.