I really don’t like the title of this weeks topic, “Selfish Singles.” I feel like it’s a slam like we’re doing something wrong. But in all honesty I don’t feel like I’m doing anything wrong. Because I don’t have a family or a husband or ha a life I tend to have more free time than others. Do I necessarily like this? NO Way! I’d love to have a family or husband to take care of but that isn’t my situation.
Really I don’t feel bad for sleeping in on the weekend, wasting time on social media (although I know tons of people of all lifestyles that do this), blogging, helping out at church, and going on vacations. Yeah some of the things I do are better than others.
Since I graduated college I have helped out with the confirmation program at my parish and I’ve loved it. I love learning more about my faith and helping those kids understand everything going on in this time of their faith. Do I get through to everyone? No…but there are a few that really start to understand it and can see past confirmation and see how they can use their faith in the future.
I’ve always been a REALLY independent person. Even when I was in middle school and high school…heck probably even younger than that. I wanted to do things for myself and hate asking others for help. Something I still struggle with. So being single and selfish kind of transfers to that. One of the things I work on is learning to do things for myself. Learning how to cook, grocery shop, budgeting, you name it. I feel by learning how to do this in my “Free time” now will put me that much further ahead when I do get married and have a husband and kids.
Part of me thinks people that call singles “Selfish” goes to show how scheduled and busy people in this day and age are….why do we need to be that busy and scheduled? In all honesty not to sound rude but what I do in my free time is my business and what my friends do in their free time is their business and what my mom or my friend Sue with 3 kids do in their free time is non of my business. Now if I ask them to hangout and they’d rather watch TV well maybe that’s another issue but for real single friends stop feeling selfish about having a ton of extra free time and enjoy yourself!! Like they say you’re only young once!!
See you next week…our topic is Marriage. Thanks for Jen and Morgan for hosting!
I agree! Singles are not necessarily selfish just because they’re single. It is probably easier for us to act selfishly, but I think that if you’re aware of that tendency or temptation, then you can work against it.
Thanks for your honesty! 🙂
We certainly didn’t mean to “slam” anyone, rather to provide the opportunity to reflect on areas of our lives that need improvement 🙂
You’re definitely right in that we don’t need to give of ALL of our free time, but I know from personal experience that when I don’t give away ANY of it, I simply don’t feel good about myself. I make sure to allot a certain amount of resting time each week, but let’s be honest: I’m an adult. I don’t need to sit around in my pajamas every single Saturday until 4PM, as tempting as that might be 😉
I think the main point is to make sure that as Christians, we’re giving of our time, talent, and treasure in whatever way we can. Just because we’re single doesn’t mean we’re exempt from giving of ourselves!
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I really wasn’t trying to “slam” anyone I am sorry I was just trying to say that we’re all supposed to be helping others no matter what stage of life and we need to figure out what we want to do in our free time so we don’t waste too much of it….because I’m def. guilty of that.
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I struggle with asking for help too.
I don’t think we are expected to give all our free time, at least by most rational thinking people because I do know a lady who acts like singles are created to do everything that no-one else wants to do and then some. We are adults with our own very busy lives but there are ways that we can give of our time and our talents even if we aren’t taking on every volunteer opportunity that exists.
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YES! So many times even in the workplace people will give my mom extra tasks to do because they think she has all this extra time because she’s not married and has adult children. Well adult children sometimes need their mom too! It was so bad at one point my sister and I were having to “schedule appointments” with my mom.
I can remember at one job where most of the staff was single and one girl was all well it’s no big deal if we all work late a lot we’re all single….girl I want to do things in life besides my job!
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I just saw this on your Twitter and the title really offends me, too! Single people are not inherently more selfish than other people. Marriage does not guarantee a lack of selfishness at all. Everyone can be selfish and everyone can give selflessly. Great post, Beth Anne!
Thanks Jane! I agree! I know tons of people that tend to be selfish and are married. It’s all about deciding what you want to do with your time 🙂