Last summer my blogging friend Jen from the Not Alone Series wrote this blog post, “How do you know if you are ‘in love’?”
Ever since she wrote it I have been SUPER curious about love and being “in love” as well. I actually have her blog post saved and every few weeks or months I will go and read the post and just ponder love..while I sip tea in Paris. Okay totally kidding about the 2nd part.
Everyone I talk to always gives me cliche answers like “you will just know.” I have enough Cliche’s about Love and Life to write an entire book!
I often frequent a Q&A Site called Quora.com and sometimes I will even search questions about love and falling in love. My favorite answer is the guy that says, “All the cheesy love songs will start to make sense.”
Obviously this is something that people are constantly looking for. There are tons of queries out there about love. Where do you find love?, how do you know?, what does love feel like?, Am I in love?, Will our love last?, Is this infatuation or really love?, the list goes on.
Honestly I still don’t have any answers to these questions. I’m still a super confused girl looking for love in the world. I still get really lonely and jealous of others that have found love and I still wish I could just wake up married and in love. I know I’m not perfect and it’s something I am working on.
But I really just want to fall in love. Everyone talks about it like it’s the best thing ever I just want to feel what it is like. How will it make me feel? How will I react? Will I know right away or will it take me a long time to figure it out? Will I like it or hate it? Will I put his needs before my own? Will it make me a less selfish person? Will I abandon my friends? Will I talk in cliches? Will it make sense?
Will we have chemistry and just click and then we’ll know? Will it make me feel so happy that I am just smiling all the time? Will my heart just hurt and race at the thought of him? At what moment will I know I’m not insane and know I’m in love and don’t want to live without him? Will it take a month, 3 months, 6 months, or 2 years?
Apparently I have a whole lot of questions and absolutely no answers. I may never know the answers to some of these questions. Although I hope one day I really do fall in love and can answer some of these questions and then I can write a follow-up blog post about how insane and totally wrong I was….or how totally right I was. Either way I’d be happy to finally have some clarity on the subject.
So my dear readers I ask you..are you in love or have you ever been in love? How did you know? Was it hard? Feel free to answer some of my questions for me in the comments!
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Hmm…I’m not sure all the love songs make sense when you’re in love. Maybe when you have an initial crush. 🙂 But then I think the answers are different for everyone. With my husband, I knew almost immediately, but our love also grows and deepens over time. Love reading your blog!
I knew I was in love almost 28 years ago because of the amazing sense of peace I felt in my relationship. It was quite the whirlwind romance. We dated 6 weeks when my hubby first asked me to marry him. We eventually got married 8 months later. Through the years I have learned that love is a verb and is a decision and action you decide upon every day.
On the flip side, my sister and her husband knew each other from 1st grade and dated 8 years. They will be married 23 years in May.
My best advice, find someone who shares your beliefs, pray about him and with him and God will show you who is your soul mate.
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La Dale says
There are so many cliches because they are all so true… For different people. I’ve been blessed to fall in love a few times and none of them were alike. Sometimes it was like that pink song (lyrics here http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/pink/truelove.html) other times it was really quiet. Sometimes it took time. With my husband it took time and one day when I was faced with life without him I thought well darn, look at that, life would suck without you. I must be in love. But mostly, when I really love someone, I just want to be near them, even if we’re just sitting in a room breathing together. They are the one person I don’t mind invading my space. I want to talk to them multiple times a day, which isn’t like me. I want to be better and do better. I want to represent them well. I consider their feelings a lot more. There’s so much more I could say, because I’ve never been in love the same way twice. It usually knocks me over the head, creeps up on me and then bam! I’ve even fallen in love at first sight before. That relationship lasted 7 years! But one thing is for sure, when it’s been real, for me, it’s always been scary. You’re giving someone a piece of your heart and trusting them not to break it. That’s huge. So I guess, when I’m more afraid to live without the person than I am to get my heart broke, that’s how I know it’s love.