Sunday night I was watching Drop Dead Diva and after it was over the movie The Ugly Truth came on. I was half paying attention to the movie when a “first date” scene came on. This girl met her date on an online dating site. She had his profile printed out and was asking him questions from the printed profile. She also had “talking points” printed out and gave him a copy and told him to start at “talking point number 3..” Oh yeah she also ran a background check on him and was asking him about some items that showed up there….lets just say from there it wasn’t fun to watch and there wasn’t a “love connection” or a second date.
This is a picture of “what NOT to do” on a first date. The girl was trying WAY too hard. She basically got anxious and wanted to make sure she knew things about the guy and wouldn’t have any awkward pauses/silences but instead made it super awkward by having all these “notes” printed out.
I’m probably the LAST person that should be giving dating advice…as I’ve only been on maybe 3 dates…But here is my take anyway…
Find out where he is planning on taking you so you can dress appropriately. If you are going to do a lot of walking you don’t want to wear high heels and you want to be dressed appropriately for the restaurant you may be eating at.
Go to a public place. First this can help with temptations. Second most men won’t try and do anything you aren’t comfortable with out in public. Really this is a first date you’re just trying to get to know each other…but now a days you never know.
Tell a friend/family member/someone you trust where you will be and check in with them when you get home so they know he wasn’t a serial killer…(no i don’t watch too many lifetime movies)…
Don’t buy the lobster (or the most expensive item on the menu). I’m kind of cheap but I just find it rude when someone is treating you to a meal and you purchase the $50 dinner. If he flat out says why don’t you try xyz it’s delicious then fine go ahead but otherwise pick a modest meal.
Another food don’t. Play it safe and pick something you know you will eat and won’t make you sick. No one wants to end up in the bathroom on a first date.
STRESS OUT. A date is supposed to be a fun evening out where you get to know one another a little better. If you stress out too much then you won’t have any fun and he probably will be able to tell something is on your mind and any future plans with this person won’t go very far.
This is all I can think of for now. For much better dating advice check out the other wonderful ladies on the link-up. See you next week…our topic is Selfish Singles.