Welcome back to another week of the Not Alone Series. This may be my last one until November as I’m doing the 31 Days of Blogging challenge in October. Depending on the topics in October I may be able to merge my NAS posts in with my 31 Days posts as each day I am blogging about different words for 5 minutes…and technically you can change the words to whatever you want.
This weeks topic makes me laugh a little as we are talking about Flirting.
Flirting is the special attention we give or receive from that special someone. Flirting is our way of showing the other person that we like them. There is verbal and non-verbal flirting, as well as appropriate vs. inappropriate flirting. What do you do or say to let your significant other/boyfriend know that you like him? What are ways that you like to be shown interest? What are the pros and cons of flirting?
I have a confession to make I had no idea what flirting even was until I was probably in late high school or college. I can remember going to six flags as a kid and seeing shirts and hats that said “FLIRT” on them with pictures of bugs bunny. I LOVED bugs bunny and would want them and my mom wouldn’t let me…she once told me that meant you were a trouble maker. LOL. Being the naive 10 year old I believed her and bought something else.
I remember as I got older kids talking about “flirting” and not really even understanding what they were talking about. I was kind of a loner and not “boy crazy” like most girls. I liked learning in school and all I cared about was getting good grades. I remember as I got into college and my early twenties and trying to navigate this whole “dating” thing. I’d talk to guys when I met them but it was always awkward.
I remember people told me I needed to “flirt” to get guys to like me or know that I liked them but I had no idea what that really entailed. I’d go on dates and lean in, listen, learn about them, etc. Sometimes I think it worked other times I think it just confused the both of us LOL
Even now I think flirting is this thing that you do when dating or trying to date but no one really understands it or knows why it’s done or what you should or shouldn’t do. The thing I always feared with flirting was to give off the wrong impression. I didn’t want to try too hard and look desperate as no one likes that. I didn’t want to not try hard enough. It’s def. a hard balance to find. I think sometimes we make Flirting and Dating WAY more complicated than it needs to be…and I think women especially tend to overthink/overanalyze things (I know I do).
In the end I’m not sure I really understand flirting so that is the perspective I’ve shared this week.